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Lately I have been dealing with a lot of stuff behind-the-scenes, in real life... I don't like to talk about those things in too much detail here as it may involve people who know each other and who might read my blog. Therefore some of it I am not comfortable posting here, but I can tell you about a few other things going on.
Husband and I are going to separate, slowly. It will be a gradual process over the next year, so that we can fully support our daughter in her final year of secondary (high) school, as well as pay off debts and save up money for her university education.
Next summer I might get a place of my own in my home city, or i could move to another city in Canada, or I might go overseas (i.e. to be a teacher in the United Kingdom). The last idea is my first choice.
The whole situation is quite amicable, and my psychologist suggested we should give divorce workshops LOL. We are best friends and genuinely want the best for each other. We have no reason to be angry and we don't see the advantage in trying to make each other suffer. In my opinion, most marriages break up for a mixture of reasons, so trying to pinpoint a "bad guy" doesn't work in most cases.
In other news I am continuing to lose weight very slowly. I have taken off 85lbs / 39kg, and I have lost 12 inches / 30 cm from both my waist and my hips. My BMI is down to 31 from 45 or 46.... In fact I have lost nearly a third of my mass. Further weight loss is not a priority as I am quite a lot healthier now, and physically I feel like I look fine. But if it happens further, I am content with that.
And there have been some big layoffs at my job with the Public Service Commission. So far I have been safe, but I will find out in a couple of weeks if I will have a job extension and for how long. My contract was also changed so that I have less job security, I am not accumulating pension credits, and I will not automatically roll over to a permanent/indefinite contract after 3 years as was contracted. These contract changes are in place until midsummer next year (if I am still employed here).
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I'm sorry that you're under so much stress right now from everything. Living with that much uncertainty and conflict is soooo stressful. If I can help in any way, please let me know.
I'm so proud of you for going ahead and making changes to live the life you want to live, and for making those changes in such a positive way for everyone! I'm also really impressed by the lifestyle changes you made and the weight you lost as a result. I've said it before and I'll say it again: you're an inspiration to me.
BTW, if you go to the UK to scope things out or to find a place to live or just to go there and you're looking for a travel partner, I'd like to put in an application for the position.
Love you so much,
Chantelle
Chantelle,
thank you so much for all of your lovely words! it really means a lot to me and i appreciate your support so much.
that would be awesome to have a travel partner when i go, but i'll let you know what could work for me closer to the date. i don't think i will scope anything out ahead of time, but going over there and getting set up will be scary as hell!!! i don't know yet if it will be in summer 2012 or 2013, but i'll keep you posted.
love,
vicki
Changing your life is scary and I admire you for having the courage to do it :) UK sounds like an adventure for sure!
You do look fabulous with your weight loss, you dress so well that I keep forgetting your size. You always look so feminine and pretty in what you wear.
Stress is, unfortunately, a part of life :( Maybe it will get easier as time goes on, or things will resolve themselves. Or maybe you'll just get so good at dealing with it that it won't seem like much anymore.
Your work situation doesn't help the stress levels :( But hey, you'll be traveling soon with a new career anyway, so your future is bright :)
thanks Bean!
i appreciate the compliments. i am happy because i can finally wear regular sizes from most stores, so i have so much more options.
love,
vicki
Wow...sounds like you took some really crappy situations and did some very positive things with them. I'm sorry to hear about your stress but you should be proud of the way you've handled things. Rational, proactive attitudes like that with which you wrote this post are all too rare these days.
All the best from Australia,
Voyager
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